Seven things vital to your marriage

If I could spare you some pain and confusion young (or older) bride, would you listen to me? Cause this marriage thing really can be good – but it takes work, commitment and it takes realizing that you are two sinners attempting to live together. But if I could zero in on seven things that are vital to your marriage, I’d love to sit you down…face to face, if I could…and share some key areas I’ve experienced in my own life and in the lives of other women that I’ve counseled over the years. 1. INTIMACY IS VITAL TO YOUR MARRIAGE AND IS A GIFT FROM GOD I was also that devoted and loving momma…and sometimes, giving attention to my husband and to my children seemed to go together about as well as trying to fit a puzzle piece...

Mercy for the lost and wounded

I tend to feel things deeply. Since I’ve known Christ, my heart has grown even more tender. Since I’ve experienced my own suffering, there’s been an increase in the lament over the lost and wounded¬† – often greater than the anguish itself. In other words, the sorrows, the mere emotions that once pelted my heart have taken on human form. The emotions alone are no longer what my heart contains, but rather, the realization that sin, the pride of life, the lustful heart…they lead to separation from God. Our darkened hearts create a great chasm, keeping us from intimacy with the very ONE that our souls longs for. We are desperate and needy people so fragile, who don’t stand a chance without a Redeeming God. So when my heart is...

Are you ONE worth saving?

Are you ONE worth saving?

Brutal, bitter cold.¬† For those of you who do not understand what this is like simply climb into your freezer, shut the door and stay there for 12 hours…which you really shouldn’t do because that would be deadly…so don’t try this at home…use your imagination. But hopefully, you get the picture ….but you’d also have to add a jet engine blowing sub zero winds towards you and into the nook and crannies of your bones. It’s the opposite of warmth or anything that resembles comfort – ponder that for a moment. Naturally during the coldest week of the year our first doe decided to kid. I kept hoping my calculations would be off or that she’d just wait…(like a pregnant anything can just wait) but sure...

To persevere when you want to give up

Sometimes we look around only to discover that we are still struggling with the same issue, same person, conflict, addiction…sometimes in relationships we find that the sins and struggles of another bears down on us to the point where we don’t care to have the heart to carry on. It has become exhausting and wearying. It would be so much easier to walk away. Dealing with women who have spouses that struggle (or when the wife is struggling) has been revealing of all the sorrow that people carry when someone close to them is in bondage to sin. There is no way around it – sin is ugly, it destroys, it wounds, it has consequences. It is especially difficult when you are married to someone who seems to be bent on destruction. How does one persevere in...

When all you see is your failure.

Sometimes, all we see is our failures. We just can’t seem to get it together. We are overcome with the driving sense of inadequacy that can paralyze and shake our confidence to the point where we shut down – frozen with the fear of even more failure. When we are on a path that seems so treacherous, and honestly, at times, so very lonely we wonder, who is traveling here with me. Have I gotten so far off, so far away, have I missed the mark by so much that now I’m a thousand miles from where I should be? We look around and though we’ve tried, it seems like the best that can float to the top is something that is just going to sink again, What’s the point, why try, it’s no use, I can’t do it, I will only fail, maybe God...

Super heros can’t save if they are only thinking of self

“Super hero’s don’t just think of their self, they think of others.” Over and over again, we’ve been attempting to help Luke understand that he must think of how his actions/words effect others. He likes to think of himself as a superhero and that he can save the world, save anyone. There was a time when all he could do was attempt to protect himself, but now that “His dream has come true with a family,” he sometimes gets carried away and forgets about others. Even when we are blessed with wonderful things, we need to think of others….that’s what I tell Luke… then I remember myself… I must think I’m a super hero too because I think of “me” most of the time. I think of me when I am...

Taken in.

I stole some minutes today. I made a choice to worship my King. I put on my absolute favorite CD and I forgot about the dishes that were stacked on the sink. I forgot about all the writing I needed to accomplish, the e-mails I hadn’t yet answered, the fact that the dog was stretched across the floor at my feet. I chose to focus my heart in complete adoration and praise to my God. Life and business could have easily held me captive. I could have gotten so much done. I could have knocked a lot of the list…but I choose not to do what needed tending to…cause my soul needed tending to. I was carried away. I was in the presence of the throne of God and I danced. It was me and my God in my kitchen. The dog at my feet didn’t matter, neither did all...

May friendship, encouragement and grace abound!