Waiting for His Heart; Lessons from a Wife Who Chose to Stay
God tells us to love our enemy’s
but how difficult is it to love your spouse when their addictions are destroying your family? Waiting for His Heart is a testimony of mercy, grace, redemption and God’s faithfulness as Joy’s family walked through more than twenty years of addictions and an unhealthy marriage. Full of lessons learned during the enduring trial, it speaks to women who are struggling with a spouse who struggles. Each family member writes a section, detailing how God was the mender of hearts and how Him being glorified far outweighs individual sorrow. A self-study is also included.
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Joy, your video alone touched my heart and brought me to tears. I cannot wait to absorb the wisdom God gave you so I can continue on a similar journey God and I have bee walking for 21 years. I know this is not a coincidence but a God incident that Darlene posted this link. Thank you for your transparency and willingness to share in love and respect your story.
Bless your heart, Jennifer! It is such an honor to be able to encourage women and know that all of those millions of tears and thousands of prayers were not wasted, not in any way! I hope you can get a book into your hands…there is of course, so much more to talk about than a ten minute video can reveal. Included is a self-study at the end so that the reader can apply the lessons to their own circumstance. I’ve counseled women a long time and no matter what hard thing they are facing what they desperately need is to see who God really is and who they are in Him. When we understand the Gospel and what God has already done for us…we find life and freedom to rest in Him. Please, keep in touch. I want to know how God continues to minister to you in His intimate and loving ways. Never, ever give up praying!
Grace & Peace,
Joy
I waited many many years for my husband to come to the Lord. Neither of us had a drinking problem it was anger and my husband has been saved for about four years but I see him “standing still” instead of going forward. If I remind him of something he’s asked me to he’ll say that I’m “nagging” and I don’t like that because he asked me to remind him. His job always seems to get first priority with him and I feel like I’m on the back burner a lot. He comes home from work and sits in front of the tv, sometimes I will watch with him but the things he watches sometimes I have to leave the room and I’ll go in the bedroom and read my Bible. Thank you for this encouragement, I can’t wait to read the whole book!
Hang in there! God wants to do a work in your husband and He will be faithful to do so. It is so hard to get out of the way sometimes…we want to do the work of the Holy Spirit…but that only leads to arguments! If you could look through the blogs and find the one that is entitled: why you shouldn’t be his mother (or something like that) it may help you too! God wants your husband to lead your home even more than you do. Keep praying dear friend. Let me know how the book speaks to your heart. Keep me posted…I care very much about the women who take the time to write me. Grace & Peace, Joy
Sounds like an interesting book to read. Your way with words of expressing is amazing.
Thanks for sharing. My intent is to be open and real so that others can identify. I hope you can get your hands on a copy of the book too – God’s faithfulness and love for us is immense. We each have a story that speaks of that faithfulness – you have one too! I pray that you see how much He loves you and how He longs for you to know Him intimately! Take care, Grace & Peace, Joy
What about a husband who is continually verbally abusive to me and now my kids 9&12, who continues to drink although he says he knows the Lord and who continues to have affairs? Why should I keep staying when I have NO love for him at all and I have been miserable every day of my 14 year marriage?
I know it is so very hard, Lisa. That is why wise, Biblical counsel is so very important. When we are living in a fog of pain it is difficult to make wise decisions. Do you have any Biblical counseling available in your church? Do you have anyone walking alongside you? I know what its like to have weak love for your husband, especially when he doesn’t show any love toward you. What you are feeling, I’ve felt too. Do you have a copy of the book, Waiting for His Heart? If not, we need to get you one. I didn’t just have an attitude to love and wait for my husband all along…it came with years of prayer and surrender. There was a time when it was necessary for me to separate from him…but that is a decision that must be made with wise and many counsel. Even if your husband isn’t willing to get help – do it for yourself. Get a right perspective of God’s love for you. Sometimes, when we’ve been unloved and rejected for so long, we start to believe the enemy’s lies. God hasn’t forgotten you, Lisa! Go to the face book page for Waiting for His Heart…like the page, leave a comment and I’ll send you over to a private page for wives like you. You will receive encouragement and prayers daily and be able to talk with other women who share in your circumstance. Please – seek help, let me know if you have the book, don’t give up, reach out to the other waiting wives. You must consider your children’s well-being too and I’m certain that is the most difficult thing for you! That’s why it is necessary to talk to your Pastor or Biblical counselor – immediately. You are loved, Lisa – God sees and knows everything. I know your heart isn’t in it right now…but God can change your heart like He did mine. He isn’t asking you to have answers or even love your husband right now…just that you surrender it all to Him. Surrender your marriage, your broken dreams, everything to Him! Keep me posted! I really do care!!!!
Grace & Peace,
Joy
To answer your question, yes we sought counseling from our pastor at our church 9 years ago, not ONCE did he EVER follow up and ask us how we were doing he just ignored us. Also, I fell into a deep depression over the last few months and stopped going to church for awhile and I noticed after two months not ONE of my sisters in Christ called to see how I was doing. So after 11 years, I have left my church and am trying to get the courage to go another church. I need my kids in church so badly but the devil is working on me. I have gone to two different Christian counselors and never really felt an answer from God. I have an incompetent family who do not help so yes, I am very bitter and am very alone. I don’t trust anyone anymore but I know God is speaking to my heart right now to seek answers because I am so miserable now that I hate waking up everyday. The only joy in my life are my kids but outside of that, there is nothing. And I knew He was speaking DIRECTLY to me Saturday when I heard you on the radio. I just have one question that I have never really had an answer to – doesn’t God say in the Bible that valid reasons for leaving a marriage are ‘adultery’ ‘alcohol’ ‘abuse’?? I don’t understand why I haven’t left yet other than fear of not being able to take care of my kids.
Stacy, I lost part of your message, please repost that comment. I care about you!
Lisa, I just read your post and Joy is right about seeking counsel. But more importantly, SEEK GOD! I two have experienced infidelity in my marriage not once, not twice not three times but more than 5 that I know of. No alcohol just such betrayal of trust. Each situation is so different but I don’t believe the pain and confusion changes from woman to woman which is why you NEED to seek God’s face in the midst of all your pain to find out WHAT HIS WILL IS in your situation. Tune everyone else out, turn the tv off. Get before the Lord and cry out to Him for His direction, and HE WILL LEAD YOU. You can respond back to me and if you want I’ll give you my personal email or even phone#. My prayers have not YET been answered but God has spoken to me clearly about His will is for me to stay and WAIT. He has shown me my prayer for my saved husband to come out of his sin is answered BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, God has shown me how to wait on Him in the midst of all the pain, unanswered questions and tears. Not just wait but look for ways to bless this man. Respond to me and reach out and I can encourage you more if you’d like. You are not alone, don’t believe the enemy. REACH OUT! God Bless you and keep you… And your mind.
Amen! So often we are quick to run to another person rather than get our on knees.
Thanks for sharing!
Joy
I listened to your story today on the radio. It was like you were talking about me, and putting in words everything I have lived. I would like to know if there is a phone # I can call you or talk to you, it is really important, the process that I am going through right now is very difficult since my husband allready left, I have some questions, I don’t want to do anything that goes against Gods will. I would really appreciate it. Thanks!
Elizabeth…this is when I wish there were 2 of me! God sees you – He loves you – He isn’t going to leave you! First of all, let me ask if you have a Pastor or anyone leadership in your church that you have gone to regarding your marriage? Secondly, if your church offers Biblical counseling – take advantage of that – or if they do not, look up one in your area. Because of the few women that I walk along side now and because of the sheer volume of requests that I get every day, there is no way I can respond to every one of them…but I will encourage you any way that I can! I do not counsel over the phone, I’ve learned that I can encourage and offer prayer, but unless I know the background I cannot offer wise counsel. Scripture also warns us against speaking without knowing facts. HOWEVER, I do sincerely care about you…that’s why I do what I do. I’m thankful you want to make wise choices and not go against God. Your heart is desiring to please Him – therefore, He will be faithful to direct you in your steps! With all the hurt you’ve felt it is even more important to have others walk along-side who can continue to help you in both spiritual and practical ways. God desires your marriage to be redeemed ever more than you do. He will be faithful to guide you.
Do you have a copy of the book? If not, we need to get you one – I walk through a lot of practical things that align with Scripture that might help you. Also go to the face book page for Waiting for His Heart – there is daily encouragement there and if you leave me a comment and desire to…you can be included on a private, praying wives page – the wives there will love on you, pray for you and understand you! There are more resources coming on the blog, a study being offered by skype starting in January…I know all of these things are tools and right now…you really want a person. I understand that my sister, I’ve been there. If you would like to e-mail me about anything, you can do that. I’m actually out of minutes on my phone until the end of the month….from talking to so many wives! Sometimes, thought I think God is allowing those minutes to tick away because He knows I cannot wisely respond to everyone. I would imagine the issues you are facing I deal with in the book – been through a lot and dealt with a lot over the two decades of waiting. There is another radio broadcast coming up on Nov. 29th with Janet Parshall on her In the Market Program. Also, look over past blogs, sometimes I write about the hard things for waiting wives. Right now, I’m praying for you, Elizabeth…I’m praying that God grant you peace and wisdom. I’m praying that as you reach out – wise counsel is there. I’m praying that your husband come to the end of himself and that you are confident of God’s steady underneath you. Think about what I’ve said, pray and get right back with me…I care about what’s going on with you. Love your heart to please God, Elizabeth – that is a beautiful, precious gift and everything and anything you do towards reconciliation and your husband will not be wasted…no matter what!
Grace & Peace,
Joy
I was so excited to read this book. Your book had the honor of being my first download on my new birthday present, my Kindle. I have to admit that it was a little tough, reading about friends but by the end I was so uplifted by your story and your love of God and family. You certainly had a way of speaking thru your heart to mine. You made me stop and think about my own marriage. It’s so easy to point the finger at someone else instead of looking at our own selves to see if we can change “us” instead of them.
You also made me change a little bit of my perspective about a friend’s situation. She found out that her husband of many years was having a relationship with another woman. She struggles with what to do. Does she wait it out and risk being made a fool, does she tell her children and/or other family and friends and bare this burden herself, does she ask him to move out? I know that she and I have ask God to help show her some signs and give her the wisdom to make the decisions as he wants her to. Waiting is the hardest! And even just being the friend is hard too. Hoping and praying that I am helping her in some small way and secretly baring her burden too.
Our human instinct is to be defensive and act quickly. Thank you for pointing out that everything happens in God’s time. She is trying to be patient. Like you, she still loves her husband and wants to be true to her promise before God. You give us all hope and proof that God does hold our marriages very dear to his heart. And while sometimes it’s easier to end it, sometimes it is SO worth the wait!
Thank you Joy, for your openness and your true love of God! Thank you for sharing your story. Reading each of your family’s own words at the end was precious!
I pray that God continues his bountiful blessings to you and your family.
With love,
Cindie
I want a kindle!
Thanks for sharing that with me, Cindie. It is hard when we’ve been hurt – you are right – we always self-protect. Your friend is fortunate to have a dear and precious friend to walk along-side her. If she needs anything…wise, Biblical counsel, more resources, encouragement in any form…let me know, I can point you in the right direction. You’ve inspired me as well! One place they might consider if he is willing to receive counseling is a ministry called, Twelve Stones Counseling outside of Brown County. I’ve worked with them for years and they have people coming from all over the world – it is the best, in my opinion. Even if he isn’t willing – she should get help for herself. Getting a right perspective and receiving wisdom in the midst of confusing sorrow is vital. Take care and keep in touch!
Joy
Joy,
There were so many things you said in your interview that resonate with me and where I am in my marriage. My husband and I have been seperated for a little over two years. We have three small children going through this season with us. Although he continues to have a daily relationship with them, our relationship is not as close as I would like it to be. From day one I turned over to the Lord and was on my knees for forgiveness for my part and for not being the wife he needed, he left our home because of an affair and left when our third child was 5 weeks old. The road has been hard, I have stayed focused on keeping my vow, reminding him that i love him and asking him to return to us. I see that it is a spiritual battle that we are in, as he knows the Lord too but has also stayed away from going to church since we have seperated. I want to stay in the marriage for so many reasons, I know the heart of my husband is good, and I know that God has me in this place for His purpose. I ask that you pray that I stay away from temptation to date, but also that I continue to pray for my husband’s salvation and that the spirit of generational divorce leave our family. I would love to get connected with other women that are going through this too but I do not have facebook. Please let me know if there is any other way to get connected. Thank you for your story.
kristi
Kristi,
I don’t know why but I’m just now seeing this comment. So apologize for the lateness in my response. I know how your heart must ache. I know it is so very difficult to remain hopeful, especially when your kids are hurting and have already experienced so much sorrow with their father. I’m proud of you, Kristi – you are making wise choices and choosing to seek God – even though it doesn’t make sense and is so very difficult. I would really love to get a copy of the book into your hands. Can you afford to get one – I’m not sure what deals are out there but many of the sites are running great discounts right now. There is a group of waiting, praying wives on face book and it would be worth getting onto FB for that purpose! There is also a page for waiting for his heart book – which also has daily encouragement. There will be more radio programs coming up and more resources available and hopefully a skype opportunity in January for a Bible study I will be leading based off the book. Are you receiving any type of counseling? Is your church involved? Do you have outside help? You need to get connected. You can come to the blog for daily help – there will be a daily resource for waiting, praying wives, hopefully up next week.
But most of all…I’m praying for you, right now…that you be filled with God’s peace, that your husband’s eyes be opened. The enemy wants you isolated – so you feel alone and defeated. You are not alone! There are so many women facing what you are facing today! PLEASE let me know if you can get the book – if anyone is helping you and if you can get connected on FB. Sign-up to receive these blog postings directly and you’ll know what’s going on – and meet other wives. PLEASE KEEP ME POSTED!
You are loved, Kristi, by a God who sees you and knows your sorrows and hears your cries!
Grace & Peace,
Joy
Joy,
I have learned a quiet home means happy children sleeping peacefully. Yes I have been involved in the women’s Bible study at my church since the Winter of 2011. I have a pastor that I speak to from KLOVE weekly who keeps me sane and grounded in the Word. I have a coworker who I have befriended and who is also going through a seperation and has been faithful to the Lord and her marriage so we keep each other accountable during the difficult times. I am not shy when it comes to asking for prayer from the elders at our church weekely, sometimes I feel like I bore them with my request but I press on. I understand what you said about the enemy wanting to keep me isolated, I never saw it that way until you said that because I mostly stay alone when the kids aren’t around, I surround myself with my family but not enough. I will say that the Lord has allowed me to forgive my divorced parents for years that the enemy took away and they have been my emotional and financial support during these years of my separation. My husband is blinded by the past and I feel can not forgive himself for his mistakes. I love him dearly, we had 8 years of marriage and the last two we have been apart so we have 10 years married. No one saw this coming as far as our friends or family, we were a couple that took care of our marriage but the enemy was able to get in. I will think about getting on FB, although we had a couple account together and that is the reason I chose to get off, too painful to see others growing and moving forward. Thank you so much for your concern, I will keep you posted on the progress. I can only hope our story turns out like yours in that your marriage was restored.
thank you for your response. I actually was able to afford the book the day that I wrote to you, the Barnes and Noble is within walking distance from my job so on my break I picked up a copy, funny thing is when I start to sit down to read, I get very sleepy and decide to go to sleep since everyone in the house is
kristi
Ah, Kristi,
I hope you decide to get back on fb and block the ones that frustrate you! The praying wives group is such a tremendous blessing! I’m proud of you for implementing good choices and decisions. In the worst times of my marriage – I did come to the place where I knew that I was going to be OK, even without my husband, I knew that God loved me dearly, He would never forsake me. It’s still so very painful when your beloved makes such unwise choices – but God will use every bit of it to purge you and bring you to a deeper walk with Him. I would love to know how the book speaks to you directly. There will be a Bible study starting in January where you can skype in…its based off the book and specifically for praying, waiting wives. More details to come on that! Stay plugged into people and relationships…don’t allow your sorrow swallow you to the place where it won’t allow you to live life! Cling to your God, drink deep from His Word…worship Him…choose to worship Him because He’s worthy! Much love to you, sweet friend. Let me know how you are doing!
Grace & Peace,
Joy
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Thanks for the encouragement! I pray God uses the words He gives me to speak to your heart! Have a blessed Christmas! Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment!
Grace & Peace,
Joy
Joy,
A friend of mine heard your testimony today on Chris Fabry. She called me right away and said God was telling her I needed to hear what you were saying.
I went to his website and watched your video. Although our stories are different, I could hear what you were saying and I cried. I looked into my own heart and realized that God has been telling me the same things the past few months that He told you. That I need to look at my own sin instead of criticizing his. I didn’t want to hear that, it was much easier to blame him for his “bad choices.” I have heard God’s Voice myself, through you and another friend so I know that I really needed to start taking accountability for my sins and unforgiveness.
My husband has hurt me deeply. We were married in August and within a couple of days he told a lie that has had serious repercussions on his career and our life. The deceit spiraled and I find myself in a situation I never would have imagined. I am choosing not to say what he did as I’ve made the decision to pray for him for the next 30 days and not to say anything negative about him. There is still a lot of hurt and anger and if I start to talk about it, I’m afraid I will break that promise.
I have been so hurt and angry at him for his sin, that I have ignored what God has been saying to me . I haven’t wanted to look at my own sin in this situation. My sins were the same as yours – self-righteousness, self-pity, fear & anger (unforgiveness).
As you did, I’ve been praying for God to change him, instead of looking at myself and my own sins. My husband & I can’t be together right now because of the legal system – when some people heard what happened they told me to leave him right away. My pastor and other Christian friends told me to wait, pray & be patient as they believed a miracle could happen.
I can’t imagine the courage, strength and faith you have that carrried you through all your years of pain with your husband. My life has not been easy – I’ve had many hurts & burdens I felt I had to carry alone. I’ve always believed in God and have felt His Presence & have heard His Voice, but because of things that happened to me that were out of my control, I never believed that I could trust God completely. I didn’t trust that He could heal me and restore me so that I could live a peaceful life.
This situation I am in now has brought me closer to God and I am beginning to trust God for the first time in my 43 years. It is still very difficult to trust Him at times. The enemy uses that weaknesses against me, and I can now recognize when he tries to get into my head. It is a struggle to keep the enemy at bay, but as my relationship with the Lord gets stronger, it gets easier. When I move away from God and don’t put Him first – the enemy moves in and tries to use my fears and trust issues against me.
Sometimes I can praise God for the “bad things” I’ve gone through because I know when I get to the other side of my pain, “good things” will come of it. Other times I throw myself a pity-party and wonder why I’ve had to endure all the pain and suffering I’ve been going through since I was about 8 yrs. old.
The situations that I’ve been through have caused a lot of fear, anxiety & depression, which has led to a lot of unforgiveness. I pray that someday I can be released of all that – I ‘ve given it to God many times, but it keeps coming back. I know there are still people in my life I need to forgive. I ‘m asking God to help me & show me how to forgive them. People tell me it’s a choice to forgive. I have been able to forgive some of the people who hurt me, but the people who continue to hurt me or who violated me are much harder to forgive. I am trying to walk in God’s Love & see them through God’s Eyes but it is difficult at times.
I know God is using this situation to teach me patience & to look at my own sins. I have to trust Him that he will take care of me as I don’t know what the future holds. I have been praying for my husband every day for the last couple of months, but it was coming from a place wanting God to change Him for me because I couldn’t let go of the bitterness. I didn’t quite understand what you meant when you stated in the video that you began praying for holiness. Could you please expalin that to me?
Please pray for my husband Jeff & I that we both can be healed in Christ, heal our marriage & someday have the opportunity to use this situation for good to help others.
Blessings,
Amy
Amy,
I am so proud of you for choosing to trust God – even when you see no evidence of hope. I assure you, God is working in ways all around you that you cannot see or know. It is so very difficult to continue to trust in times like this…but your faith will be increased, your joy and dependence upon the Lord will equally grow. When I made a reference to holiness I meant that so much of the time we think of being “happy” – we want to be happy in our marriage, with our job, our children, all circumstances – we want to feel good. Much of the time we don’t want to have to endure…we’d rather have a quick fix, feel good, rather than being concerned with having an attitude of holiness. God is holy, God is sovereign…He is also in control and just as you stated when things are out of our control, we don’t necessarily trust God. When we examine the lives of the men and women God speaks of in Scripture… we see flaws, we see circumstances that are overwhelming…but, God is holy, just and will be glorified and He will use our trials, even our sorrows and tears in order that He might prove Himself faithful…prove Himself Holy.
I’d recommend getting a copy of the book – there is so much more than what we discussed today. On any radio interview, you barely scratch the surface. I would also recommend going on the book’s face book page – Waiting for His Heart…leaving a comment…there is a private page on facebook for waiting, praying wives where you receive daily encouragement, wisdom and prayer. The women there understand and are so kind to continually reach out to each other. Also, beginning Feb. 5th I’ll be doing a Bible study called, “Do You See Me, God?” It’s a study based off the book and speaks directly to what you say in your comment above – you would be so blessed by this study because it is truths that are meant to undo the lies of the enemy, the tainted perception of God while you examine your heart in light of your circumstance. Stay tuned to the blog and the FB pages – details are coming. It will be available on skype (live) and we are hoping to have those segments available after the fact. All the materials will be free and you’ll be able to download them off the blog. Keep praying, keep hoping, keep focusing on God and allow Him to continue to mold and shape your heart. I’m glad you took the time to leave the comment. Praying for you, tonight, Amy. Keep me posted and keep in touch.
Much love, grace & peace,
Joy McClain
Joy,
I am not sure what I should be praying for in regard to my husband. He accepted Jesus as his Lord & Savior about 2 years ago, yet was still making some “bad” choices. He’s not a “bad” person, his actions are “bad” sometimes. He really does have a good heart. When he allows God into his heart and puts God before himself he is the most amazing, loving person!
I do love my husband & am hopeful that we can work through things. I know that our marriage will be restored in God’s time if we both work through our issues. I know that God works all things together for good for those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose.
My impression is that my husband thinks this will be a quick fix and we’ll be happily back together in a very short time. I don’t believe that to be the case. I think it will take a lot of time and patience to rebuild the trust that was broken and repair the damage. We both have to own up to our part in the mess we created.
I am starting a Bible study group in about two weeks through my church – Breaking Free by Beth Moore but will pray about doing yours also! Even though I really struggle at times, I know that as long as I put God first that I will be not only be OK no matter what the future holds, but that I will flourish as long as I am obedient & faithful to God.
I really want to get your book. As I read the first chapter on-line last night, I realized our situations were more similar than I first thought. My husband is not addicted to alcohol. But he does have an addiction & he is in a spiritual battle. His addiction isn’t one that most people would recognize. He is addicted to being dishonest & deceitful. I don’t know if that makes sense. It has gotten him into a lot of trouble over the course of his life and he can’t seem to be able to stop.
I am in a spiritual battle of my own. I have to overcome my fears, anxieties and depression so that I can become the person God created me to be. The enemy is very cunning but I’m catching on to him. I never realized until recently that he wasn’t only getting inside my head through my thoughts but that he was getting to me through other people that didn’t even realize he was using them.
When I listened to your message yesterday I was struck by two thoughts -first, that my husband has to fix himself – I can’t do it for him & second that when we do communicate it is better for me to use very few words at this time. Please continue to pray for us.
Have a blessed evening,
Amy
Amy,
If you knew, could see how your words and what you feel is so very common – I think you would be amazed. I get what you are saying. The bottom line to all of our addictions, self-reliance, determination is this: we will always fail and fall so very short…which is why the cross is so glorious. We are constantly pulled, distracted by the enemy and our own flesh – our thoughts are evil as God’s Word says, our motives – selfish. We are so desperate for a Savior. Fortunately, for us, our Savior desires us…that amazes me.
I pray for you that you seek the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul and strength. I pray that you reach out to receive wise counsel. I pray that you reach out into the community of the Body of Christ and ask for help where you need it – they are meant to walk alongside you. I pray that your husband come to the end of himself…seeing fully, his need for the cross – every single day, with every single thought and motive.
We fall into grace and we drown in this ocean each day – most often not even realizing just how much mercy He is extending to us continually.
Our hope is fully in Him.
I’m proud of you, for being willing. Stay the course, Amy. God will use your sorrows and your pain for His glory.
I encourage you to try to do this study too…it’s not much homework, but the nights of the study will pierce your heart – in a good way. I’ve never written or reached so honestly down deep in my heart as I’m doing with this study. We are finally going to get real with our fears, our controlling, our actions and our self. God desires to reveal to us who He is and who we truly are in Him.
I also invite you to a private face book page for praying, waiting wives. If you go to the book’s fb page, leave a comment and I’ll send you an invite. Oh, the encouragement that takes place there and every woman understands exactly where you are coming from.
The book will help you navigate through your journey. You will identify with circumstance and the lessons the Lord taught me. You will also see a lot of practical walking-it-out help. Most important, you will be reminded of God’s heart for you and of His never-ending faithfulness!
Keep me posted. I know its a long, hard road, but as I said earlier and as my son said…God is working and using this trial in your life. Never give up and never stop praying!
Much love, grace & peace to you my friend,
Joy